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If you would like to discuss how counselling might help you please contact Andrew

www.andrewcornick.co.uk

Tel:      01793 710252

Mobile: 07732 570346

Please email me

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Domestic Violence

What is domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is physical, sexual, psychological or financial violence that takes place within an intimate or family-type relationship and that forms a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour. This can include forced marriage and so-called 'honour crimes'. Domestic violence may include a range of abusive behaviours, not all of which are in themselves inherently 'violent'.

What are the signs of domestic violence?

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Destructive criticism and verbal abuse : shouting/mocking/accusing/name calling/verbally threatening

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Pressure tactics: sulking, threatening to withhold money, disconnect the telephone, take the car away, commit suicide, take the children away, report you to welfare agencies unless you comply with his demands regarding bringing up the children, lying to your friends and family about you, telling you that you have no choice in any decisions.

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Disrespect: persistently putting you down in front of other people, not listening or responding when you talk, interrupting your telephone calls, taking money from your purse without asking, refusing to help with childcare or housework.

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Breaking trust: lying to you, withholding information from you, being jealous, having other relationships, breaking promises and shared agreements.

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Isolation: monitoring or blocking your telephone calls, telling you where you can and cannot go, preventing you from seeing friends and relatives.

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Harassment: following you, checking up on you, opening your mail, repeatedly checking to see who has telephoned you, embarrassing you in public.

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Threats: making angry gestures, using physical size to intimidate, shouting you down, destroying your possessions, breaking things, punching walls, wielding a knife or a gun, threatening to kill or harm you and the children.

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Sexual violence: using force, threats or intimidation to make you perform sexual acts, having sex with you when you don't want to have sex, any degrading treatment based on your sexual orientation.

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Physical violence: punching, slapping, hitting, biting, pinching, kicking, pulling hair out, pushing, shoving, burning, strangling.

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Denial: saying the abuse doesn't happen, saying you caused the abusive behaviour, being publicly gentle and patient, crying and begging for forgiveness, saying it will never happen again

How common is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is very common. Research shows that it can affect one in four women in their lifetimes, regardless of age, social class, race, disability or lifestyle. Domestic violence accounts for between 16% and one quarter of all recorded violent crime. In any one year, there are 13 million separate incidents of physical violence or threats of violence against women from partners or former partners. What issues can counselling address?

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Couple counselling may help assess whether a relationship is abusive or just unbalanced.

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Entrenched abuse is not a suitable subject for working on as a couple.

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Individual counselling may be useful to the abused person, who may have difficulty detaching themselves from the partner's behaviour.

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Counselling may help restore self-esteem and re-examine healthy ways of relating.

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Specialist agencies can offer support to perpetrators to examine their behaviour - counselling is not always appropriate for abusers.

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There are often problems with taking responsibility for abusive behaviour; often the victim assuming blame and the abuser adopting a "poor me" stance

If you would like to discuss any of the mental health issues raised on this page or find out how counselling might help please contact me.

Websites

Women's aid

Women's Aid is the key national charity working to end domestic violence against women and children. We support a network of over 500 domestic and sexual violence services across the UK

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

 

National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV)

Provides a free, fast emergency service to survivors of domestic violence regardless of their financial circumstances, race, gender or sexual orientation. The service allows anyone to apply for an injunction within 24 hours of first contact (in most circumstances). We work in close partnership with the police, local firms of existing solicitors and other support agencies (Refuge, Women's Aid etc) to help survivors obtain speedy protection

http://www.ncdv.org.uk/

 

REFUGE

Provides a  network of safe houses offering  emergency accommodation for women and children when they are most in need.

http://refuge.org.uk

 

Hidden Hurt

A website designed to help understand the dynamics of an abusive relationships, the different forms (or faces) abuse can take, it's effect on both direct victims (ie person being abused) and indirect victims (ie children living in a house where abuse occurs), specific issues facing the Christian abuse victim, and helpful links and telephone numbers inside the UK.

http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk

 

National Stalking Helpline

Provides practical advice and information to anybody who has been affected by harassment or stalking.

http://www.stalkinghelpline.org/

 

Network for Surviving Stalking

Provides support to victims, potential victims and others affected by stalking /harassment throughout the UK.

http://www.nss.org.uk/

 

Broken Rainbow UK

Support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender(LGBT) people experiencing domestic violence.

http://www.broken-rainbow.org.uk/

 

Men's Advice Line

The Men's Advice Line is a confidential helpline for all men experiencing domestic violence by a current or ex-partner. This includes all men - in heterosexual or same-sex relationships.

http://www.mensadviceline.org.uk/

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Leaflets

In this section you will find a selection of leaflets you can download or print.

Self help leaflet from NHS Northumberland

Self help leaflet from MoodJuice

Local Resources in Swindon

Keeping Swindon Safe

The Partnership employs a Domestic Violence Co-ordinator to work with agencies, organisations and communities such as Swindon Women’s Refuge, the Police, Health Visitors, NSPCC and Housing to raise awareness of domestic violence and identify ways to support victims and survivors.

http://www.swindon-csp.org.uk/csp-domesticviolence.htm

 

The Swindon Freedom Programme

The FREEDOM programme is run weekly in Swindon during school term time. It is a free 12-week rolling programme, which means that women can join at any point. Freedom is run from a Children's Centre. A free crèche is provided for children under school age funded by Swindon Borough Council.

The Swindon FREEDOM programme is for women who are currently experiencing domestic violence and abuse, for women who have recently left an abusive relationship and for women dealing with the impact of domestic abuse from the past. All women are welcome to attend whether they are at high, medium or low risk of harm

http://www.hometruths.coop/

 

Splitz Support Service

Support to victims of domestic violence and abuse. Usually consists of 1:1 support with the opportunity to attend domestic abuse workshops. Support is provided at a safe location and at times to suit you. Available to male and female victims from Wiltshire and Swindon

http://www.splitz.org/

 

The New Swindon Sanctuary

The New Swindon Sanctuary is a dedicated centre to support victims of sexual assault throughout Wiltshire, whether they be men, women or children. Our trained professionals can provide immediate medical care, a forensic examination, counselling and onward referral. Our service is available, whether or not you wish to have Police involvement.

http://www.newswindonsanctuary.co.uk/

 

Gloucestershire Domestic Violence Support and Advocacy Project

free and confidential county-wide service working to end domestic abuse in Gloucestershire.  

http://www.gdvsap.org.uk/1.html

 

Swindon Samaritans

Swindon and District Samaritans has been offering emotional support to those in crisis for more than 40 years. You can call or email 24hrs a day.

http://www.samaritans.org/swindon/

   

This information was put together by Swindon Counsellor and Psychotherapist Andrew Cornick. If you would like to find out how counselling might help you please contact me at any time.

www.andrewcornick.co.uk

Tel:      01793 710252

Mobile: 07732 570346

Please email me

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