Destructive criticism and verbal abuse :
shouting/mocking/accusing/name calling/verbally threatening
Pressure tactics: sulking, threatening to withhold money,
disconnect the telephone, take the car away, commit suicide, take the
children away, report you to welfare agencies unless you comply with his
demands regarding bringing up the children, lying to your friends and
family about you, telling you that you have no choice in any decisions.
Disrespect: persistently putting you down in front of other people,
not listening or responding when you talk, interrupting your telephone
calls, taking money from your purse without asking, refusing to help with
childcare or housework.
Breaking trust: lying to you, withholding information from you,
being jealous, having other relationships, breaking promises and shared
Isolation: monitoring or blocking your telephone calls, telling you
where you can and cannot go, preventing you from seeing friends and
Harassment: following you, checking up on you, opening your mail,
repeatedly checking to see who has telephoned you, embarrassing you in
Threats: making angry gestures, using physical size to intimidate,
shouting you down, destroying your possessions, breaking things, punching
walls, wielding a knife or a gun, threatening to kill or harm you and the
Sexual violence: using force, threats or intimidation to make you
perform sexual acts, having sex with you when you don't want to have sex,
any degrading treatment based on your sexual orientation.
Physical violence: punching, slapping, hitting, biting, pinching,
kicking, pulling hair out, pushing, shoving, burning, strangling.
Denial: saying the abuse doesn't happen, saying you caused the
abusive behaviour, being publicly gentle and patient, crying and begging
for forgiveness, saying it will never happen again
If you would like to discuss any of the
mental health issues raised on this page or find out how counselling might
Women's Aid is the key
national charity working to end domestic violence against women and
children. We support a network of over 500 domestic and sexual violence
services across the UK
Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV)
Provides a free, fast
emergency service to survivors of domestic violence regardless of their
financial circumstances, race, gender or sexual orientation.
service allows anyone to apply for an injunction within 24 hours of first
contact (in most circumstances). We work in close partnership with the
police, local firms of existing solicitors and other support agencies
(Refuge, Women's Aid etc) to help survivors obtain speedy protection
Provides a network of
safe houses offering emergency accommodation for women and children
when they are most in need.
A website designed
to help understand the dynamics of an abusive relationships, the
different forms (or faces) abuse can take, it's effect on both
direct victims (ie person being abused) and indirect victims (ie
children living in a house where abuse occurs), specific issues
facing the Christian abuse victim, and helpful links and telephone
numbers inside the UK.
National Stalking Helpline
Provides practical advice and
information to anybody who has been affected by harassment or stalking.
Network for Surviving Stalking
Provides support to victims, potential
victims and others affected by stalking /harassment throughout the UK.
Support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender(LGBT) people experiencing
The Men's Advice Line is a confidential helpline for all men experiencing
domestic violence by a current or ex-partner. This includes all men - in
heterosexual or same-sex relationships.
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In this section you will find a
selection of leaflets you can download or print.
Self help leaflet from NHS Northumberland
Self help leaflet from MoodJuice
Keeping Swindon Safe
The Partnership employs a Domestic Violence Co-ordinator to work with
agencies, organisations and communities such as Swindon Women’s Refuge, the
Police, Health Visitors, NSPCC and Housing to raise awareness of domestic
violence and identify ways to support victims and survivors.
The Swindon Freedom Programme
The FREEDOM programme is run weekly
in Swindon during school term time. It is a free
12-week rolling programme, which means that women can join at any point. Freedom
is run from a Children's Centre. A free crèche is provided for children
under school age funded by Swindon Borough Council.
The Swindon FREEDOM programme is for women who are currently experiencing
domestic violence and abuse, for women who have recently left an abusive
relationship and for women dealing with the impact of domestic abuse from
the past. All women are welcome to attend whether they are at high, medium
or low risk of harm
Splitz Support Service
Support to victims of domestic violence and abuse. Usually
consists of 1:1 support with the opportunity to attend domestic abuse
workshops. Support is provided at a safe location and at times to suit you.
Available to male and female victims from Wiltshire and Swindon
The New Swindon Sanctuary
The New Swindon Sanctuary is a dedicated centre to support victims of sexual
assault throughout Wiltshire, whether they be men, women or children. Our
trained professionals can provide immediate medical care, a forensic
examination, counselling and onward referral.
Our service is available,
whether or not you wish to have Police involvement.
Gloucestershire Domestic Violence Support and Advocacy Project
free and confidential county-wide service working to end
domestic abuse in Gloucestershire.
Swindon and District Samaritans has been
offering emotional support to those in crisis for more than 40 years. You
can call or email 24hrs a day.