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Bereavement

Everyone’s experience of grief and loss is unique. It is normal to feel sad and even angry when a person close to us dies or leaves. People can experience similar feelings when a relationship ends.

Mourning is a ‘cycle of loss’ which often includes denial, fear, loneliness, grief, anger and letting go. It is a painful process but allows us to come to terms with the loss.

Grief, although normal, can manifest itself differently in people. Some people move through its different stages almost effortlessly and others can get stuck at one stage.

For these there is the possibility of grief turning into depression as the feelings turn inwards to despair.

Symptoms of Bereavement

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Physical pain - tightness in the body, breathlessness, lack of energy

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Confusion, hallucinations, disbelief

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Obsession with the deceased, sleeplessness, lack of appetite

Most cultures have rituals which allow the bereaved to be supported and move automatically through the early stages of their loss in a structured way. Funeral services and memorials fill the early days of shock and disbelief with activity and other people. For many, decision-making becomes difficult and concentration can be lost for long periods. Anger may be misdirected at relatives, health professionals or others directly associated with the deceased.

There may be an extended longing for the person to return and an inability to accept the loss. If the relationship was a troubled one the conflicting emotions can make the loss even more difficult to bear and result in a guilt which is hard to shift. Professional help may help make sense of the different feelings.

The main tasks of mourning are:

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To accept the reality of the loss and understand its significance

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To work through the confusing pain of grief

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To adjust to life alone – to re-draw our map of oneself

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To let go of the person and find a place for them emotionally

What issues can Counselling address?

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It can offer an understanding of the mourning process

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To explore areas which might restrict moving on such as child abuse

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Help resolve areas of conflict still remaining

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Help to adjust to a new sense of self

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Consider if the mourning has turned to depression

Talking about the loss is usually helpful and allows a person to adjust to their new life with all its changes, good and bad. Keeping things bottled up, or denying the sadness can prolong the pain.

Any loss has to be acknowledged for us to move forward. Bereavement means finding a suitable place for the lost person to allow life to continue with adaptation and change, not forgetting or wiping out the memory.

If you would like to discuss any of the mental health issues raised on this page or find out how counselling might help please contact me

Websites

The Compassionate Friend

TCF is a charitable organisation of bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents dedicated to the support and care of other bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents who have suffered the death of a child/children.

http://www.tcf.org.uk/

 

Twins and Multiple Births Association Bereavement Support Group (TAMBA BSG)

The Bereavement Support Group (BSG) exists to support all parents and carers who have lost from a multiple birth whether it was during pregnancy, at birth or afterwards. We are so sorry for your loss and hope that by making contact with the BSG you will find some comfort.

http://www.tamba.org.uk/bsg

 

Child Bereavement Charity

Support for grieving families when a baby or child dies.

www.childbereavement.org.uk

 

Cruse Bereavement Care

Support and practical advice for bereaved people.

www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk

 

Winston's Wish

Childhood bereavement charity provides services to bereaved children, young people and their families in the UK.

http://www.winstonswish.org.uk/

 

Daisys Dream

Daisy’s Dream supports children and their families both facing and following bereavement throughout Berkshire and the surrounding areas. The death of a significant person in a child’s life can be devastating and difficult to understand. We offer support and advice to families, professionals and anyone concerned about a grieving child.

http://www.daisysdream.org.uk/

 

SeeSaw

Grief support for the young in Oxfordshire. SeeSaw helps children and their families both before and after a major bereavement, helping them to move forward and to face the future with hope

http://www.seesaw.org.uk/

 

The WAY Foundation

Provides a social and support network to help young widows and widowers under 50

www.wayfoundation.org.uk

 

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide

Providing a safe, confidential environment in which bereaved people can share their experiences and feelings, so giving and gaining support from each other

www.sobs.admin.care4free.net

 

The Blue Cross - The Pet Bereavement Support Service

Offers support and understanding to bereaved pet owners through a national network of trained volunteer telephone and email befrienders, all of whom are ready to help.

www.thebluecross.org.uk

 

Disaster Action

Disaster Action offers support and guidance to survivors and the bereaved of those affected by major distasters. They coordinate support groups for people caught up many recent incidents.

http://www.disasteraction.org.uk/survivors_and_bereaved.htm

 

Epilepsy Bereaved

Epilepsy Bereaved is committed to preventing Sudden Unexpected Death in Epilepsy and other epilepsy deaths through research, awareness and influencing change. EB provides a contact line enabling people who have been bereaved by epilepsy related deaths to get initial support and information. Currently there are over 1,000 calls per annum.

http://www.sudep.org/

 

Road Peace

We are the national charity for road crash victims. Our members include those who have been bereaved or injured in crashes .We are the only member based charity for road crash victims in the UK, and the only one with local groups.

http://www.roadpeace.org/

 

Support After Murder & Manslaughter (SAMM)

Offers understanding and support to families and friends who have been bereaved as a result of murder and manslaughter.

http://www.samm.org.uk/

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Leaflets

In this section you will find a selection of leaflets you can download or print.

Leaflet from Royal College of Psychiatrists

Bereavement leaflet from Counselling Directory

Self help leaflet from NHS Northumberland

Local Resources in Swindon

Hillier Bereavement Care

http://www.hillierfuneralservice.co.uk/html/Services4.html

Hilliers offer support to the bereaved. It is an extension of the services provided by Hillier Funeral Service as part of the care offered and is free of charge.

 

Swindon Samaritans

Swindon and District Samaritans has been offering emotional support to those in crisis for more than 40 years. You can call or email 24hrs a day.

http://www.samaritans.org/swindon/

 

Surviving After Child Suicide

Surviving After Child Suicide (SACS) is a supportive resource for families who suffered the tragic and indescribable loss of a child to suicide. SACS was created by Swindon-based Freelance Writer, Jan Andersen, who lost her 20-year-old son to suicide on 1 November 2002

http://www.childsuicide.org

 

Swindon Sands

Swindon Sands is a local Sands group, offering support to bereaved parents in Swindon and surrounding areas. It was founded in 2008 and is run by local parents who have lost a baby too.

http://www.swindonsands.org/

 

This information was put together by Swindon Counsellor and Psychotherapist Andrew Cornick. If you would like to find out how counselling might help you please contact me at any time.

www.andrewcornick.co.uk

Tel:      01793 710252

Mobile: 07732 570346

Please email me

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